Why Women Talk and Men Walk:
How to improve your relationship
without discussing it Patricia Love and Steven Stosny (Vermilion,
2007)
Here is a great book - one that I've recommended to
both my colleagues and clients! For those who just can't understand
how their better halves think or behave and have done their
best to follow traditional advice of 'improving communication
skills' without success, here is a little gem.
In their introduction, Love and Stosny declare that "It's
not about communication.' "Rather," they elaborate,
"it's about connection." Or to be more precise,
why we 'disconnect' from our partners. In a chatty, yet amusing,
informative and extremely practical way the authors describe
the premise for disconnecting from our partners and how to
remedy this. From a man's point of view, and from a woman's
point of view.
Yes, men and women are wired a bit differently. They describe
how men and women suffer different 'invisible' vulnerabilities
in the form of 'fear and shame,' and how this results in a
lifetime of men and women trying to avoid these feelings.
It is our challenge to manage these differences - not avoid
them - that is the key to ensuring we have a truly meaningful
and connected relationship.
The first part of the book describes our differences, and
why it has been so hard for us to understand what makes our
partners 'tick.' The second part gives practical exercises
for reconnecting with our partners; finding that original
spark again. I found the most valuable part to be the exercise
on understanding our core values. If we do this, we will transform
our feelings of fear and shame, and at the same time, we will
become more compassionate towards our partner's feelings;
we become 'emotionally attuned' to each other once more.
Anthea's Journey - Rediscovering Life:
by Anthea van der Pluym
Published
by Aardvark Press
[Backcover quotation] Written from a personal perspective,
this book is an encouraging resource for family members and
friends who are helping victims in the aftermath of a devastating
and life-changing event. This story describes how Anthea survived
the effects of a loved one's violent death. The author's hope
is that her story will inspire others to begin their own journeys
and to rediscover life after violence.
Dance on your Glass Ceiling:
by Dr Cecile Gericke.
Published by Aardvark Press
[Backcover quotation] This uplifting book will equip you to
throw off the shackles that bind you both professionally and
personally. Dr Gericke's special interest is in empowering people
to be the best they can be and create healthy relationships
and expectations at home and in the workplace. |
